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Life As I Know It - My Day to Day After Marriage

First of all, I am happy to report that I love living life around Bill.  He is just such an easy person to be around and he really sets me at ease. He loves to read and always is comfortable and cooks fun food with me and always makes me laugh.  I know, I know... I am SUCH a newlywed, but I am OK with it.  I just love him with every part of me.

Life as I know it has changed.  I no longer live with a girlfriend who I chat with and she braids my hair... Now I live with a boy who is always smiling.  Honestly, I tried to go into this whole marriage thing with no expectations, but I guess I had a few.  You listen to people your whole life tell you what marriage will be like, and you can't help but take some of what they say to heart.  However, what I have learned is that my marriage is different from everyone else's.  No matter what someone else would do, I need to learn to approach things best for me and Bill.

Bill needs patience and understanding and love and respect - some men need other things.  We can always give each other advice on how to best handle a situation, but the only thing we should operate off of is peace with the all knowing God who knows the heart of our significant other.

Everyday I come home to happy man.  We just love to be around each other.  Whether we are cooking or cleaning or reading or watching a movie, I am just happy to be next to him through it all.  I guess this is the part that has surprised me the most.  I am not sad the wedding is over.  So many people told me I would have this "depression" after we got back from the honeymoon, and sure I wish we were still in Thailand and off work and living outside of reality.  But, its nice to know that even in my real life, Bill is the most wonderful thing for me.

I will sleep happy tonight with Bill next to me.  He just completes my heart.  

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