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Love Languages & Missing A Dear Friend

I love that we all speak different love languages.  I think it is important to find value in others, and not disregard them because it isn’t what comes naturally to you.  Some people are great with Quality Time, some people will perform Acts of Service, some people need to be Physically near someone, some have honed the craft of Words of Affirmation and some people speak through the language of Gifts. 

Sometimes you are forced into a long distance friendship, and you cannot have some of those methods in your friendship, and that is when creativity comes in.  My wonderful friend Heather gives the most wonderful thoughtful gifts, and while I believe her real love language is quality time, she really makes due with our current situation and makes the most of it.  She is constantly sending me boxes and letters and notes just to remind me she cares.  I am great with words of affirmation, and this is my gift back to her.  She is a beautiful, wonderful woman who teaches me about what is really important.  She always believes in me, and sometimes I think she has more faith in me than I have in myself.  She is so affirmative in every way she can be, and we are great texters to stay in touch as much as possible.  I never feel like she is far away.  I miss her desperately, always.

For my Birthday/Easter she sent a sweet box filled with all kinds of goodies and treats.  She bought little stuffed puppies, Easter egg dying kits, cupcake kits, cards, and bunny masks.  Everything made me smile as I pulled it out individually, and made me miss her more.  She really thinks about me and what would make me smile.  

There are some people you just want to be around, but the timing of life throws things off.  Heather is so dear to me, and I wish today that she could live next door, that our boys would be best friends, and that our puppies (mine is imaginary) would play together.  I am so proud to be her best friend.  She really effects me.  She makes me stop making excuses and face my problems, but she also laughs and cries with me through everything.  Honestly, I could not ask for a better friend.

Heather, I love you.  Thank you for every prayer and for all your love.  You mean the world to me.  Keep dreaming and reaching toward selfless love of everyone around you.  When it gets tough, give more.  You can always call me and I am always here.  I love you and miss you and can’t wait to see you in a few weeks.  You are a genuinely beautiful person, and I hope you can feel my affirmation miles and miles away.  You are a wonderful best friend.

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