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Practice Kindness.

 For some reason, I feel like I need to carefully choose my words today.  Articulation is under-rated, but I want to make sure I am clear.  Lately, I have been thinking about excusing our behavior.  I cannot tell you how many people say, "I've always been this way," or, "I'm never going to change," and that is all they have to say about a bad habit or misunderstood ideal that they know is off.  Seriously?  

Just because you or I have a natural inclination to something does not mean that you have to be that way; it actually doesn't even mean that it is easier to be that way, because you can constantly be hating yourself for the way you are.  I'm not even sure what triggered this in my mind, but I just can't believe what people excuse in their own day to day.  Ignorance, racism, rudeness, crudeness, violence, anger, and a million other tendencies and attitude problems.  I do not understand the lack of desire to fight these inclinations.  If you hate something about yourself, why leave it that way?

As I type this, I realize I am being insensitive to some, but to most it is a call to stop complaining about how you wish you were nicer or more generous, and just be those things.  I know the way you are brought up changes things, but it does not have to control you.  I know I sound like a broken record, but is it such a high calling to treat others with the respect they deserve? (especially those who openly claim faith).  Go out of your way for someone who you are not that close with and expect nothing for it. Stop acting like you deserve the world for driving a few extra minutes.  Stop wanting someone to re-pay you.  Generosity extends beyond tithe... it is a way of life.  Have an open door policy.

I guess I will stop writing about these items when I no longer see them as a problem with anyone in my life.  I know I have work to do as well, and I charge myself to be less selfish with my time constantly.  The rest of this week holds fluffier posts about happy things, but the only way I can write about those is by carrying around a clear conscience.  I hope you feel as though you treat others fairly and with respect and love always, and if you do not feel like you are doing an adequate job, I hope you stop shrugging it off and start changing your hearts tune.


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