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A Plea to be Sincere and Genuine


There is no “Road to Happiness,” and I find it infuriating that people are always saying…”When I get this” or “when I do that”… “then I will be happy.”  I wish everyone knew that there is no key to happiness (outside of faith, which invites a whole host of other things to tackle).  I want to start by explaining my rather extreme opinion… anything can be conquered.  SO many people claim unhappiness, but I think happiness and unhappiness are equal decisions.  Contentment can be found in sickness or in health and for richer or for poorer.  No one deserves anything.  I am tired of hearing people say that they are not getting what they deserve.  What we NEED versus what we WANT has become a gray area. 

I am just as guilty as anyone else, but I never want to be the rich man who wouldn’t give up his possessions to follow Christ.  Our “stuff” must be meaningless to us.  It can make us smile and bring us back, but it should never be more important than the people in our lives.  This post is tough for me, because it is such an important topic.  Simple living is not something that is good for some people and not good for others, it is Biblically based and something more people need to take into consideration.  There is a HUGE difference between being comfortable and being wasteful.  

My heart hurts for people who do not enjoy meaningful conversation and quality time.  Why just co-exist when we can dig deeper?  When you ask someone how they are, listen to their response.  Don’t just do so out of courtesy.  In fact, do nothing out of courtesy.  Do everything with sincerity and be genuine to a fault.  If you live every moment with honesty at the forefront, you will never have to deal with damage control.  I pray that you find this fire deep within yourself.  God willing, you pour out your heart to those closest to you and get into what causes you to be the way you are.  We all have things to discover and unwrap.  I hope you make it your mission to find yours.  It is never easy nor does it happen overnight.  But know that I, honestly, believe in you.       


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